Why is it so difficult to be ordinary?

Recent comment by one of my friend upsetted me for one full day. You must be thinking that the comment must had been real bad, but naa it was just a passing statement ‘You girls are all same’. I retaliated to this statement by not talking to him for some time but now when I have forgiven the sinner, by restarting the conversation, I thought what the big deal about it was. Is it really that bad to be counted as one of the millions of girls or I should say is it really bad to be counted as ordinary. I have met so many people in last couple of years and sometimes to increase my listening power I make people speak about themselves and just hear them, their thoughts about themselves, as per my experience if you give one chance to people to talk about themselves, 90% of them will try to tell the quality that they poses that is different from others. Is this single quality help us stand out the crowd or the just imagination of standing out the crowd make us develop this habit. I remember in my childhood I used to wear watch in my right hand and when all others wore it in left, why?, just to show I am different. Although I stopped wearing watch in right side, not because I stopped thinking myself different but because it was far more comfortable to have it in left rather then on the right side, but I still want to do something that makes me different. Why is the human mind wants to prove infact the question should be, what is it that human mind wants to prove to others. Its ironical that its more painful to see yourself being able to sustain in day-to-day life like an ordinary person and being able to feed your family and kids like an ordinary person does. Sometimes I think that either I should be on the top or should be out of this rat race. I think it is easier and satisfying to fight to be different then being ordinary. In this short span of our lives we fight to be different, to do something ‘alag’ but forget the moments that we miss in between. This fight is unending; I wanted to work in ‘different’ city so landed in Mumbai, once I am here then I am an ‘ordinary’ Mumbaite, to get rid of this ordinary tag I fight to purchase a house and once I am a proud owner of a house in a costly city like Mumbai, then I realize that I have entered the category of ‘ordinary house owner’ in Mumbai and so I fight to purchase a car and the fight continues. I think its Ambani-level or SRK-level we are fighting for and only one or two in millions make it to this level so rest 999998 people land in category called ordinary. Is it really that bad to be in this category? I still don’t have a ‘satisfying’ answer to this question but today as I close another yearly chapter and say bye-bye to 2009, I hope that 2010 will bring new answers to ever increasing and unending hunger of human mind.

Whats all this ho halla about??

So now we have another big celebrity being engulfed in the flames of sex and scandals. Tiger Woods, whose couple of extra marital affairs have surfaced recently, had been center of all media attention, putting his professional as well as personal life in daamadol situation. So that means whatever he earned from his sports for so many years has gone down the drain. Now even a kid with 0% knowledge of golf knows 100% about Tiger Woods, might not be about his golf skills but about his number of affairs and all those minute details. Mr Woods is not the first celebrity to go through this, we have a long list. But the most important thing to be thought about in all this is, what is this hoo halla about. Is it because it involves the richest sportsman of the world, or is it because that affair number is too high to add spices to it, or is it because it involves love, sex and betrayal. Whatever it may be but one thing is quiet sure, the main culprit is sex, the three letter word that can bring a high-up to the lowest level. But why??? Why is this word such a taboo. Why is that even refer of this word outside your marriage can shatter your whole family. Quiet a sensitive topic to discuss……phew. But if we think little deep into the problem instead of its consequences we might something more important, something more reasonable to this problem, if I can call it the same.
Recently I was reading in a newspaper where a judge of a Supreme court said that we all know that prostitution is the oldest surviving profession and the one which we are not able to curb, then why to fight against it, why not legalize it. Now you must be thinking that from where the hell prostitution came into picture in between the spicy Tiger Woods story. Once thought deeply we will realize that these things are all related to one thing and that is sex. We all human beings, animals, bacteria, mammals everybody who have life have requirements like we eat because the body needs food, we drink because body needs water, similarily we have sex because body needs it. Different bodies have diff requirements for everything including physical intercourse. But I think we haven’t reached the phase where we take sex as one of the body requirement, its still one thing that should be hidden from outer world, should only be discussed in closed doors, if discussed/experimented outside your home’s bedroom can lead to rocky relationships. Tiger is one of the live example who is sacrifised because of this thought process, but I think that its high time that we open our windows and change our view point towards this. We need to see it with different angle. I am not in favour of betrayal but you betray only when you know the other person is not going to see sex the way you see it. If we change the overall viewpoint we might have better relationships, lesser rapes, less people who get forcefully involved in flesh trade. Rampant nature of anything is bad including eating, drinking or sex and we need rules everywhere. Better rules can help society to have lesser divorces, STDs etc. The rules that were made earlier were applicable for those times. Everything is undergoing change so should our thought process and the rules of society to make it a better and more peaceful place to live in.

God of Big Things.

Bombay is a big city, covering area of 600 square kilometer and having a population of more then 19 million people. It is second largest city in world and I think the only city in India with a blend of flavors from all over India. Economically it generates 5% of India’s GDP. What do all these big figures mean to me. All these big figures mean a lot infact. It means after you come to this city you realize that a sq feet of area means so much, money and time are two most important things in life, being a girl doesn’t mean sitting at home, decision of having second kid depends on pay package, life is not about waiting for opportunities to happen but to make them happen and so many things. You get stuck by Mumbai virus the moment you step on this soil. High rises, slums, footpaths, 5 stars, red light areas, bars, pubs anything you ask for (or not ask for) and you have it. It doesn’t mean that none other big cities provide this but Bombay obviously has an undisputed edge over all other metros.
What drives mumbaites, how they have so much of energy to take a local in morning where even breathing is an effort and then come back on same by evening, how they manage to come up from a breakup so soon and start afresh next very day, how they make there living by selling a 2 buck comb in locals for years and continue doing it for rest of their life. What is the driving nerve of this place that we call as Mumbai. It is the God of all small and big things – Dreams. This is a place that sells dreams to all small, medium or big people. It gives new dreams to the eyes, providing all the opportunities for the wings to expand that make you can fly till whatever height or fall till whatever depth. Such a variety of public you can find here, from beggars to business owners, from auto driver to merc owner, from common man to the biggest actor, from laborer to a politician, from an atheist to the most religious person, from a person staying in a slum to a nariman point resident, in brief from nobody to everybody to somebody. This means at whatever level you are at, you always have somebody to look upto till you reach highest level, which again is an undefined line in this city.
When I came in this city, I hardly had any idea about the life other then that I am going to join my husband here in a new company with 50% hike in salary. But this is the city which gave my mind more horizon to think. Life is not just about job, salary hike, marriage, kids, its far more than that. I don’t say that I have got the clarity of what I want to do, but I think it is a better situation then being ignorant. I am also one of the customers of this Mumbai dreams and hope to fulfill them in this city only one day.